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The Creative Little Church Interview

The Creative Little Church Interview

Below is an interview with Coletta Smith, founder and coach with Alongside taken from an interview with thecreativelittlechurch.org.  Tell us a little about Alongside – a ministry for pastors’ wives.  Coletta: Being a ministry wife is full of challenges:...

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Intentional Mentoring for Pastors’ Wives

Intentional Mentoring for Pastors’ Wives

If you haven’t discovered it yet, pouring your life into others as a pastor’s wife can bring tons of joy. We get to see God radically transform a life, up close. But it also brings some complexities specifically tied to being a pastor’s wife that can be a little...

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Can I Have Good Friends in Our Congregation?

Can I Have Good Friends in Our Congregation?

Did you know that all of our email blasts come out of questions from the pastors’ wives that Alongside serves? And this is one of those questions that comes up just about every semester during our cohorts. The funny thing is, my answer would have (and will always be)...

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What  Ministry Couple’s Can Learn From the Fixer Upper Team

What Ministry Couple’s Can Learn From the Fixer Upper Team

For me, it’s not really about the decorating. It’s not even about the cool transformations that I can watch happen in the course of my lunch break. There’s a bigger reason I find myself with Fixer Upper on while I make dinner or clean my own house. The reason Chip and...

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“Help! I’m Stuck!”

“Help! I’m Stuck!”

As quarantine settled in around me, so did my own spiritual desert. I didn't feel God’s presence or enjoy spending time with Him. His Word wasn’t leaping off the page to speak to my heart. Worship felt routine and my prayers just bounced off of the ceiling. I felt...

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When Church Doesn’t Make the Covid Cut

When Church Doesn’t Make the Covid Cut

We are starting to notice which families are coming back to church and which ones aren’t. It’s a hard thing to think about as a pastor and as a pastor’s wife. We ask ourselves, “Are they Ok?” or “Are they just worried about the virus?” or “Maybe they just don’t like...

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Playdough or Concrete: It’s a Heart Condition

Playdough or Concrete: It’s a Heart Condition

When my children were little, it was a common occurrence to find their playdough containers partially open, the colorful dough hardened and crumbling. I would remind them endlessly to close the lids, but their busy little minds would soon forget. Finances were tight...

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What’s My Why?

What’s My Why?

"I think when you forget why you’re doing what you’re doing in ministry, it’s really easy to let bitterness or resentment take over. I’m not going to deny those thoughts and feelings. That pain does happen, but those are the moments I have to remind myself why we’re...

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Balancing the Expectations

Balancing the Expectations

You know that feeling. Your life is filled with commitments with very little margin left, when you hear about another need, or find out a couple in your church is on the brink of a divorce, or someone asks you to help out in another ministry arena. You wrestle with...

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Realistic Expectations

Realistic Expectations

“I just get so jealous when my friends talk about their husbands being home by 6 and having dinner together. It’s a rare thing when my husband doesn't have an evening meeting and by the time he gets home, the kids are in bed. It feels like he is always at the church.”...

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Am I rowing harder or raising my sails?

Am I rowing harder or raising my sails?

Am I rowing harder or raising my sails? When I ask other women how this season has been for them, I get a lot of different answers. Everyone has experienced this pandemic differently, but there’s one response I hear pretty often. “Well…it’s been nice to slow down and...

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Putting My Christmas Disappointments in Perspective

Putting My Christmas Disappointments in Perspective

Our family is one that typically does not like tradition. We would rather talk about plans for the future than reminisce about the past. We like trying new things over repeating the old… except when it comes to Christmas! But this Christmas is so weird. Every time we...

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Railroad Tracks

Railroad Tracks

When I was a kid, we had an old electric train that had been passed down through a few generations. In the winter, when we were stuck inside, we’d pull it out and put it together. The metal tracks came in sections that connected together with an electric current...

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Growing In Resilience: Authenticity vs. Transparency

Growing In Resilience: Authenticity vs. Transparency

I was having lunch with another pastor’s wife the other day and she put words to a struggle that all pastors’ wives have at some point. Or, if you are like me, come around to over and over again, as I walk along this path. She said, “I really value vulnerability and...

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