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Dealing with Dragons Part 2: Discipling the Difficult People God has Blessed You With – Action…not Reaction
Author: Heidi Gilboy So maybe you are standing in the church lobby reeling from the impact of the words being hurled at you; or perhaps you are sitting at your kitchen table (as I was) while your close friends and ministry partners let you know that they are leaving...
Dealing with Dragons: Discipling the difficult people God has blessed you with
Guest Author: Heidi Gilboy I was standing right in the middle of the church foyer with two of my children around my legs, and she was facing me with a big fake smile pasted on her face as she proceeded to tell me just how my husband had failed as a pastor. She had...
How to Avoid the 4 Biggest Mistakes of Pastors’ Wives in Small Churches
Guest Author: Laurie Acker Being a pastor’s wife in a small church is tough, and sometimes we make it even harder. Because the reality is: There’s no manual of how to walk this pastor’s wife role There’s no “typical” pastor’s wife - so there’s no ONE way to do it well...
The Creative Little Church Interview
Below is an interview with Coletta Smith, founder and coach with Alongside taken from an interview with thecreativelittlechurch.org. Tell us a little about Alongside – a ministry for pastors’ wives. Coletta: Being a ministry wife is full of challenges:...
Intentional Mentoring for Pastors’ Wives
If you haven’t discovered it yet, pouring your life into others as a pastor’s wife can bring tons of joy. We get to see God radically transform a life, up close. But it also brings some complexities specifically tied to being a pastor’s wife that can be a little...
Can I Have Good Friends in Our Congregation?
Did you know that all of our email blasts come out of questions from the pastors’ wives that Alongside serves? And this is one of those questions that comes up just about every semester during our cohorts. The funny thing is, my answer would have (and will always be)...
What Ministry Couple’s Can Learn From the Fixer Upper Team
For me, it’s not really about the decorating. It’s not even about the cool transformations that I can watch happen in the course of my lunch break. There’s a bigger reason I find myself with Fixer Upper on while I make dinner or clean my own house. The reason Chip and...
“Help! I’m Stuck!”
As quarantine settled in around me, so did my own spiritual desert. I didn't feel God’s presence or enjoy spending time with Him. His Word wasn’t leaping off the page to speak to my heart. Worship felt routine and my prayers just bounced off of the ceiling. I felt...
When Church Doesn’t Make the Covid Cut
We are starting to notice which families are coming back to church and which ones aren’t. It’s a hard thing to think about as a pastor and as a pastor’s wife. We ask ourselves, “Are they Ok?” or “Are they just worried about the virus?” or “Maybe they just don’t like...
Playdough or Concrete: It’s a Heart Condition
When my children were little, it was a common occurrence to find their playdough containers partially open, the colorful dough hardened and crumbling. I would remind them endlessly to close the lids, but their busy little minds would soon forget. Finances were tight...
What’s My Why?
"I think when you forget why you’re doing what you’re doing in ministry, it’s really easy to let bitterness or resentment take over. I’m not going to deny those thoughts and feelings. That pain does happen, but those are the moments I have to remind myself why we’re...
Balancing the Expectations
You know that feeling. Your life is filled with commitments with very little margin left, when you hear about another need, or find out a couple in your church is on the brink of a divorce, or someone asks you to help out in another ministry arena. You wrestle with...
Realistic Expectations
“I just get so jealous when my friends talk about their husbands being home by 6 and having dinner together. It’s a rare thing when my husband doesn't have an evening meeting and by the time he gets home, the kids are in bed. It feels like he is always at the church.”...
Am I rowing harder or raising my sails?
Am I rowing harder or raising my sails? When I ask other women how this season has been for them, I get a lot of different answers. Everyone has experienced this pandemic differently, but there’s one response I hear pretty often. “Well…it’s been nice to slow down and...
Putting My Christmas Disappointments in Perspective
Our family is one that typically does not like tradition. We would rather talk about plans for the future than reminisce about the past. We like trying new things over repeating the old… except when it comes to Christmas! But this Christmas is so weird. Every time we...